12 Tips to Promote Relationship Success

Calm your emotions and try to think clearly and objectively.
Speak and act more constructively.
Express appropriate emotional needs such as “I missed you”, instead of having a pre-determined expectation that your partner “must be here for me”.
Avoid taking on another person’s emotional state, e.g. their anxiety, fear etc…
Your happiness comes from within you and shouldn’t be dependent on another person.
Change your maladaptive patterns of behaviour without expectations from the other person, i.e. be less needy or less critical.
Look for reasons behind the anxiety of others so you can be less reactive and manage yourself better around them.
It is not important to be loved, liked, approved of, accepted or nurtured by everyone.
Focus on “you” at least 51% of the time so that you can manage your emotional needs without being critical of yourself or blaming anyone else.
Make important relationship decisions calmly and thoughtfully, is better than making decisions based on impulsive feelings.
You can’t change the past, but you can create a different future.
Stop seeking or expecting others to nurture you like how you want to be nurtured by your parents.