Five Different Love Language

What makes one person feel loved isn’t always the same for their spouse or partner. Every person demonstrates,  understands and receives love in a specific language. 

Understanding your own ways of expressing love, and your partner’s; and understanding how your expressions of love are different or similar,  means you know when you’re loving your partner the way you want to, and when your partner is loving in their favourite way.

What are these 5 different love language?

Words  of  Affirmation  – people with this love language need to hear their partner say  “I love you”  and give them compliments. This include leaving your partner a voice message, or a written note or talking to them directly with sincere words of kindness and affirmation.

Other affirmation saying can be: “thank you”, “that was nice of you” or “I  appreciate what you did”.  “That dress looks incredible on you”,  “you always make me laugh”.

Quality  Time  this language is all about giving your partner your undivided attention. This is about being together,  paying attention to each other,  sharing something meaningful together and listening and communicating. That means  no TV,   no chores,  no mobile phone.

Other examples include:  preparing a meal together,  while talking and eating together, sharing plans for the future, making love, or creating something together.

Gift Giving  this person thrives on the love,  thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. The act of choosing and giving a gift that shows you know and understand your partner, and you cared enough to think about him/her. A gift can be a bunch of her favourite flowers … or cooking their special dish .

Acts  of  Service  – this language expresses itself by doing things that you know your spouse would like,  or to make life easier for him/her.  Basically actions speak louder than words.  For example,  vacuuming or grocery shopping,  making breakfast in bed or walking the dog to demonstrate you care about your partner and your life together.

Physical  Touch  – people with this love language,  thrive on any kind of physical touch: holding hand, hugs and pats on the back, touching their arm or hand during a conversation; offer to give a neck or back rub. Physical touch is the most direct way to communicate love,  it calms,  heals and reassures.

It’s worth remembering,  not everyone expresses their love in the same way, so being aware of the different love languages can help you better understand your relationship