What makes one person feel loved isn’t always the same for their partner. Every person demonstrates, understands and receives love in a specific language.
The five love languages are five different ways of expressing and receiving love. Not everyone expresses love in the same way, and likewise, people have different preferences how to receive love. Knowing you and your partner’s main love language and applying that language regularly can create a better understanding of each other’s needs.
In relationships, it is essential to learn the emotional currency of the person we hold dear and identifying their love language is part of it. When we know what another person’s love language is, we can choose the gestures that will most resonate with our partner, friend, parent or child. We feel loved when we recognise the actions that speak to us.
What are these 5 different love language?
Words of Affirmation – people with this love language need to hear their partner say “I love you” and give them compliments. This include leaving your partner a voice message, or a written note or talking to them directly with sincere words of kindness and affirmation.
Other affirmation saying can be: “thank you”, “that was nice of you” or “I appreciate what you did”. “That dress looks incredible on you”, “you always make me laugh”.
Quality Time – this language is all about giving your partner your undivided attention. This is about being together, paying attention to each other, sharing something meaningful together and listening and communicating. That means no TV, no chores, no mobile phone.
Other examples include: preparing a meal together, while talking and eating together, sharing plans for the future, making love, or creating something together.
Gift Giving – this person thrives on the love, thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. The act of choosing and giving a gift that shows you know and understand your partner, and you cared enough to think about him/her. A gift can be a bunch of her favourite flowers … or cooking their special dish .
Acts of Service – this language expresses itself by doing things that you know your spouse would like, or to make life easier for him/her. Basically actions speak louder than words. For example, vacuuming or grocery shopping, making breakfast in bed or walking the dog to demonstrate you care about your partner and your life together.
Physical Touch – people with this love language, thrive on any kind of physical touch: holding hand, hugs and pats on the back, touching their arm or hand during a conversation; offer to give a neck or back rub. Physical touch is the most direct way to communicate love, it calms, heals and reassures.
It’s worth remembering, not everyone expresses their love in the same way, so being aware of the different love languages can help you better understand your relationships